Communication In Relationships

Commication In RelationshipsCommunication makes the world go round. (You probably thought it was sex or money, right?) But think about it. These things couldn’t be obtained or used without some form of communication. And communication definitely makes your relationship go round, or not go round, depending on how things are for you right now.

Communication in relationships can be a tricky thing. You may have one thing coming out of your mouth, but a completely different message may be oozing from your body language and facial expressions.This is the main reason why you must speak to your partner when you are calm. Any hostile expression or movement on your part will result in defensiveness from your partner. This includes his or her perception of hostility….even if you didn’t mean it that way.

What to do if you are angry…..

1. Sit down and lean back comfortably in your seat.

Resist the urge to scoot up on the edge of your chair and lean forward. This reflects calmness on your part, which will usually promote calmness in your partner.

2. Fold you hands loosely in your lap.

This keeps you from pointing and gesturing in ways that might escalate the situation. It also gives you something to focus on (the act of keeping your hands still) and that will help NOT get angry.

3. Speak slowly in an even tone without getting too loud.

Nobody likes to be yelled at, right? And when you speak slowly it allows to better choose your words, which keeps you from blurting out the first thing that comes to mind.

3. When all else fails, revert back to my favorite stand by – write a letter.

This is self explanatory. Put it down on paper so you can’t get too upset and your partner get tune you out.

4. Try a little empathy for the other person’s side of things.

Really put yourself in their shoes for just a moment and see how things look for him or her. You might just see that some of your actions look different to your partner than what you intended.

I always knew my mother could have gotten a better reaction out of my father with a little more empathy (and plain kindness), but after I received a degree in psychology I saw things even more clearly. Disagreements are not always bad. They can be opportunities to understand your partner better. In fact, they can be a chance to grow even closer when you learn to work out your issues with kindness. It all depends on your attitude (and your partner’s attitude) going into the disagreement.

What to do if you don’t feel like your partner is listening…..

1. Get his or her attention in any way possible.

If you have tried everything imaginable and you are not getting any “real” attention when you try to have a conversation with your partner, then try this: 30 Days of Gratitude. I prescribe this for lots of different issues because it works. Just click here to see how this completely free little technique can turn things around for you. (And, guys, don’t blow this off before you try it. Your girl will LOVE IT!)

2. Now that you have their attention really surprise them by inviting them to talk first.

Yes, you read that right. Once they have the opportunity to speak their mind first and you listen sympathetically, then they will be more willing to return the favor when it’s your turn to talk (it’s a little bit of subtle reverse psychology without them knowing it). You might begin by saying something like, “Tell me some things you like about our relationship and some things that you don’t especially like?” This is a very open ended question that cannot be answered with a simple “yes” or “no” so it gives a wide range of possibilities for the conversation. And, ladies, if you are trying to dig information out of your guy you are not making them talk about their “feelings” exactly, which can sometimes send men into lock down mode. (Notice I didn’t say “how do you feel about our relationship”? Small nuances like that are important.)

3. Be nice.

That one is really simple. If you ever get them started really listening to you, don’t use it as time to list every fault they have. Pick and issue that is bothering you, then tell them about it. Let’s say you are always asking your husband to help with the laundry and it turns into an argument almost every time. Start by saying something like, “What do you think we could to change our situation with the laundry?” First off all, you are asking to discuss the solution, not the problem. You don’t sound like you are cruising for an an argument. You are neutral and looking for peaceful solutions. At this point be ready to listen to any and all suggestions. Make it easy for him to talk to you. Remember to stay calm and have calm body language and facial expressions. Be might be surprised as to how well this can work.  When you work out a system that you both want to try, be sure to hug and kiss him and thank him for working out something for you both to try. Do it with a smile. This gratitude will make him want to work out the next problem in a similar manner because he will want the happy solution at the end.

Communication in relationships is NOT the scary thing that people think it is! Courtesy, manners, and plain kindness will get you a long way.

Remember, always love like there’s no tomorrow!

See you next time!

Live Interview on RadioMD

RadioMD InterviewI have been invited to do a guest interview on RadioMD for my newest book How To Fight Fair (And Not Want To Kill Each Other) which is available for download at Amazon. I am delighted to have this opportunity to share with all the listeners.

Specifics of the interview:

Date/Time: Monday March 10, 1:10pm ET

Show: Staying Well

Segment Topic: How to Fight Fair in Relationships

Be sure to tune in!

Power Struggles In Relationships – Gone In 4 Weeks With Dr. Oz Plan!

Power Struggles In RelationshipsPower Struggles In Relationships – Tired of Pushing & Pulling?

Power struggles in relationships are so common these days that many reality shows base their whole design on the concept. Why? Because people can relate to it. I have one word for you: Trust. Let me explain…..

Although the battle of the sexes has been raging since the beginning of time, women in the workplace have poured lots of fuel on the flames. They pull their half of the load, therefore, they want their half of the power.

People are tired and stressed out. Add the rising divorce rate to the mix and you get people in relationships who really only want control of their future. They want some say in the shaping of their relationship and life.

That’s where the trouble often begins, especially if both partners are not communicating as well as they could. (Please see the exercise below.)

Who Wears the Pants In Your House?

You or your partner? If you answered, “The dog!” then forget this article and go pet your pooch!

But seriously, do you feel like your home is a perpetual battlefield where the most aggressive sergeant gets to rule the whole army?

Power struggles in relationships usually start as small irritations that snowball into one huge avalanche. Why? Both individuals feel like they are:

a. not being heard

b. losing control of their life and individuality

c. not having their feelings considered

All this comes down to one big concept. They feel like the other person cannot be trusted to make decisions that are positive for BOTH partners. So ultimately, a big component of  most power struggles is lack of trust. Just let that sink in your brain for a minute.

The sad part of this is that often both individuals CAN be trusted, but the lack of openness in the relationship simply does not allow the trust to break through, then you will see that it’s true.

Are You a Turtle Or a Sponge?

A turtle has a hard shell and doesn’t allow anything inside that shell. He keeps everything out so he can remain safe. If you are a turtle, then you are keeping out the good stuff as well as the bad stuff.

On the other hand, a sponge soaks up everything. If you are a sponge, then you soak up every single thing your partner has to offer. You are not afraid of the bad stuff because with it comes the good stuff too.

Here is the cold hard truth: If you have a relationship with ANYONE, then you will get hurt at some time. Parents, friends, family, partners – ALL HUMAN. Every single one of them. (Just like you.) People are not perfect and they will make mistakes. So you will get your feelings hurt and people will fall short of your expectations in life.

So ask yourself, “If I trust my partner, what’s the worst thing that will happen?”

Well, I will answer that question for you.

If both of you learn to trust each other, then you will have a mutually respectful relationship which will lead to both of you consulting the other’s opinion before any big decisions and you will be a great team instead of two lonely individuals.

Now, doesn’t that sound warm and fuzzy?

When you rationally think these scenarios through, you will see that the consequences are usually not that bad.

Life is too short not to love and feel and experience as much as you can. So don’t be the turtle. He has a slow, dull, boring life.

Here is the best exercise I could find to overcome the power struggle in your relationship. In the book YOU: Being Beautiful: The Owner’s Manual to Inner and Outer Beauty by Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz (I love these books!) they recommend the Your Way/His Way Four Week Trial. (Before you get too excited, this has nothing to do with sex.)

 

Here’s what you do. For the first two weeks your partner gets to make ALL the decisions. This means everything from what’s for dinner to who to invite over for dinner. They will decide on plans for the weekend and what goes in the basket at the supermarket.

But wait, your turn is coming. The next two weeks are your turn. Just how will this help your relationship? According to the authors, “First, it separates the actual issues from the power struggle over who is right.” This is important because allows you to trust each other without the baggage, and it also reaffirms that trust when you see that your partner considers you when making decisions and does not abuse the power even when they have permission to do so.

Back to sex. This power experiment does not apply to the bedroom. That’s one place that needs to remain the same. (It could do more damage than good.)

So, set your partner down and agree to complete this experiment and end the power struggle in your relationship right now.

Your future will thank you.

Another great resource I recommend to bring you closer is called 1000 Questions For Couples. You can download this ebook, print it off, and place it on your shelf to use for years to come. It will never be outdated because it contains timeless questions to help you achieve a level of closeness that most couples never feel. It’s a great investment for ANY couple (as well as a great wedding gift).

Power Struggles In Relationships

 

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★ How To Train Your Husband Is Out!

How To Train Your HusbandHow To Train Your Husband has just been released!

I am really excited about the release of this book! I have worked hard to pack it full of practical ways to improve any relationship. The goal of every person is to have the happiest relationship possible, right? How To Train Your Husband will help you reach this goal in the easiest way possible.

This book will allow you to shape the way your husband relates (and reacts) to you. You will keep him on his toes and surprise him with tactics and behaviors that he has never seen from you before.

Over time his behavior will begin to change in relation to yours (usually without him even realizing it).

I am including a bonus ebook called How To Fight Fair. This book helps you eliminate painful arguments that damage your marriage and replace them with constructive “discussions” that work out the issues at hand.

Every marriage has room for some improvement! And yours will not improve itself, right? It takes some effort on your part.

For less than the price of one cheap meal out, you can improve your marriage for the rest of your life!

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Compromise In Relationships: Do You Have a Companionate Marriage?

Compromise in Relationships

Do you have a companionate marriage?

No, I didn’t mean to write “compassionate”.

This is a term that means both partners share all tasks within the marriage equally. No one’s career is more important, and nothing is the sole responsibility of either person.

Sounds nice, huh? This is the modern couple at it’s best, you might say.

However, no matter how hard people try to maintain such a relationship, grievances still occur. After all, we are only human, right?

There is no right or wrong way to run your marriage. (Yes, I said “run” it. Because that’s what we do.) But compromise in relationships can only happen if both partners know exactly what to expect from each other.

If you are a woman who wants a companionate marriage, then you have to ask yourself if it’s in your contract. Not sure what I mean? Then read on…..

What Kind of Contract Do You Have With Your Partner?

“We don’t have a contract,” you say.

Well, I have to disagree with that. All marriages and/or relationships have an unwritten, often unspoken contract that you mutually agree to on a certain level.

Don’t believe me?

Let me give you an example. In the book When Smart People Fail
by Carole Hyatt and Linda Gottlieb, the authors explore the “contracts” people make when they are in love.

 According to them each contract has two components: economic and emotional.

This is their sample of a traditional contract:

Man:” I will earn a good living for us [economic contract] and be strong at all times for you [emotional contract].”

Woman: “I will not work outside the home [economic contract], and I will be the mother to your children and supportive of your needs [emotional contract].”

 

That one doesn’t work for you? How about this one?

 

Man: “I am an artist and cannot be looked to for money [economic contract]; I agree to be volatile and exciting [emotional contract].”

Woman: “I will earn the income in this family [economic contract], and I will be emotionally steady so that you can be volatile [emotional contract].”

 

There are as many types of relationship contracts as there are people, but some are based on an equal partnerships while others emphasis one partner as being dominant in either economic or emotional parts (or sometimes both).

However, this does not imply that both parties are necessarily happy with the arrangement. In fact, people often “agree” to situations that later feel quite unhappy for them.

Compromise In Relationships

According to the book, relationships can usually survive if one part of the contract is broken. However, if both parts are broken, then severe troubles usually erupt. In many cases this leads to divorce.

Therefore, it sometimes become necessary for a couple to renegotiate their contract. Time passes by, situations change and people change.

So let’s say that a couple has the traditional relationship contract. The man is the rock. He is the financial and emotional provider for his wife. Then suddenly he loses his job, and worse, can’t find a new one.

His wife will most likely support him and help him through this struggle. But let’s say the man goes a very long time without finding new employment and then his emotional state starts to crumble.

His wife is left looking at this shell of a man wondering, “Where is the rock I married? Where has my security gone?”

Once these feelings start to seep into a relationship, it can really undermine the way both people feel about their roles in the relationship.

His sense of failure in compounded when he feels like he is failing his wife and family. She, in turn, feels like lots of responsibilities are piling up on her that she didn’t sign up for.

The loss of a job is not the only thing that can send a relationship reeling. Anything stressful life event can bring on a situation that threatens your comfortable roles.

So it is important to sit down with your partner and discuss your implied contract BEFORE hardships come your way (and they ALWAYS come, sooner or later).

Compromise in relationships often comes from one or both partners deciding to be honest about being unhappy. If you partner comes to you with this information, don’t see it as a failure but rather an opportunity for growth.

Dig deep and really be honest about what is going on between the two of you. There is no wrong kind of contract. Whatever you both agree to is perfectly fine. The point is to know what to expect from each other and to make sure that both individuals are happy with their role.

The more prepared you are, the better you can weather any storm.

Companionate Marriage Versus Traditional Marriage

So which one is better? Neither. If you both like the more traditional model of marriage, then by all means go for it. In fact, traditional marriages where the wife stays home are becoming the latest thing these days. It is “hip” again.

There are also lots of variations of the “traditional” marriage. For example, my husband works and I stay home to take care of the kids and our home. However, I also happen to work online. With this arrangement I am able to always put our home life first, and my work comes second. We are able to do this because he sees our financial security as mainly his concern [economic contract]. And I see the needs of our family as mainly my concern [emotional contract].

It works for anyone in our family, and we are all happy. Your arrangement should make you happy, too. If your current situation is not what you want it to be, sit down and talk to your partner. Don’t know where to start?

There is a great resource called 1000 Questions For Couples. This inexpensive book digs really deep and touches all the areas that couples need to discuss. Here’s the best part. It’s more comprehensive than any other resource you will find on the internet (or in most book stores).

Find out what your partner truly values in you and in your relationship. And finally get your thoughts heard too. This is a crucial step to working out the best contract for you and your partner. If you sat down and discussed only one topic each day it would last you almost three years! (That’s cheap marriage counseling!)

I would really like to hear some feedback from couples who have put this resource to good use.

It’s time to fix lunch for my little one.

Happy Tuesday everyone!

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Clingy Signs (How To NOT Suck the Life Out Of Your Partner)

Clingy Signs

Clingy Signs 101

The words “clingy signs” should be written on the forehead of a friend of mine who is getting a divorce. This guy has been the epitome of a good, loving spouse. He took the good with the bad. No amount of bad behavior on the part of his wife made him want a divorce.

There was literally NOTHING she could do to make my friend walk away (and trust me, it got bad). In other words, he was being a doormat. A clingy, needy, doormat. Finally, she left and ended my friend’s misery.

But that wasn’t quite the end.

She came crawling back, and unsurprisingly, he took her back.

After she learned that she could push him to that point and get away with it….Well, let’s just say a pattern started. Now she comes and goes as she pleases with the full knowledge that he will ALWAYS take her back.

You see, she has learned that he has no boundaries in place, no self respect, or self esteem. And she is taking full advantage of his weaknesses. Therefore, he clings to her for dear life. And in return, she treats him like he is nothing.

The more he needs her, the more she abuses him.

Clingy Signs Are Like NOT Like a Box Of Chocolates

Why? Because you DO always know what you are gonna get. Trouble.

Clingy signs are quite clear to a person on the outside looking in on a relationship, but it’s sometimes more difficult when you are one of the two people participating in it. So when does needing support from your partner cross the line and become just plain annoying?

First, let’s back up for a minute.

So why is it so bad to be clingy and needy in the first place? I can sum it up in one word:

UNEQUAL.

That’s right. When one person is clingy, then they are automatically taking more from the relationship than they are giving. Period.

It doesn’t matter how much you love them if you are smothering them because they will be unhappy anyway. And I am speaking from experience here. A significant other from my past used to get mad if I ate breakfast without him and usually not speak to me for three days. (Even though he wouldn’t get up for breakfast when everyone else did.)

Yeah….it was that bad. And that’s just one example of many…but I digress.

This made me feel like I was carrying a heavy weight because I felt responsible for my happiness AND HIS! I could only hold us both up for so long. After awhile it just wasn’t worth the effort anymore. I believe that’s what happens to lots of potentially great relationships.

Here’s the reasons why:

1. Clingy People Are Usually Selfish (Although Not All of Them Mean To Be)

If you are a clingy person and I just hurt your feelings, I am sorry. But you need to hear the truth and take a good look at yourself. (Your future happiness depends on it.) Clingy people are insecure people. They need constant verification that they are loved, appreciated, etc. Because of that need, they are always thinking about themselves and how their partner is relating to them.

Now, when you are constantly thinking about yourself you can’t possibly be thinking about your partner and their needs, can you?

YOU are responsible for YOU and it’s NOT your partner’s job to make you happy. Clingy people wait for other people to make them happy when, in truth, happiness never comes from external sources. It ALWAYS comes from within.

So if this sounds like you, then go out right now and take up a new hobby that you have always wanted to try. Set a goal and accomplish it. Read some happy, upbeat self improvement books. Make some new friends. Do anything that will make you feel more accomplished, well-rounded, confident, and basically good about yourself.

(Then you won’t need other people to make you feel good because you will have the power to make yourself feel better.) By the way, all those traits just named will also make you more attractive to your mate.)

2. People Want To Feel Like They Are In a Relationship With an Equal

An equal is someone on the same wavelength with you mentally, emotionally, and physically. They “get” you like no one else does. And they give as much to the relationship as they take. Relationships are like banks. You make deposits, then you draw out things when you need them. However, it will bankrupt your relationship if one person is always making withdrawals without putting anything in.

Basically, the healthiest relationships are those involving two happy, independent people who don’t actually “need” each other in the most basic sense, but who choose to be together and love each other because it makes them happy.

3. Each Partner Needs Support

One of the main points in life is to find a person to share your highs and lows with. They celebrate with you when things are great, and they help hold you up when things are bad. However, if you are a clingy person, then how can you be a rock for your partner when they need you? (See Number 1 above.)

Remember, you are responsible for your 50% of this relationship. Don’t shrink away from your duties. Your partner needs support no matter how strong they are. They need to feel like you always have their back, same as they do for you.

4. Relationships Require Work

All You Need Is Love is a great song, but it’s simply not true. (Now I will have that song in my head all day.) Relationships take work, but if your partner is your top priority it doesn’t really feel like work. Instead of spending your day worrying about where your partner is and what they are doing, take that time to plan something nice for them to show your love. And give them some space so they can breathe. It will be good for both of you.

Can’t decide if you are clingy or if your partner is clingy? Here are some signs:

* Must know where the other person is every minute of every day.

* Don’t like for your partner to spend time with their friends without you (or at all).

* Want your partner to give up hobbies/interests that don’t include you.

* Hold your partner back from their potential because you are afraid of being “left behind”.

* Don’t have a life and plan of your own. (That’s why you are riding their coattails.)

But please don’t confuse any of this as meaning you should always do things without your mate, or vice versa. There’s a healthy balance when it comes to allotting your time with your partner and other people in your life. There is no magic number or percentage. It’s different with each couple. If you talk openly about it, then you can figure out what works for both of you.

(By the way, good communication also cuts down on clinginess in relationships because you are closer, and therefore, more secure.)

A good resource to help you get closer to your partner is called 1000 Questions For Couples by renowned relationship author Michael Webb (as seen on the Oprah Winfrey Show and many other media outlets).

Clingy SignsBy the way, if you are completely wound up in each other absolutely LOVE clinging to each other, that’s not necessarily a bad thing (as long as both of you genuinely enjoy it). But one word of caution: It is still more healthy for you as a couple, and as individuals, to have some independent time away from each other. Everyone needs some time alone with their friends and individual interests. Give yourselves a chance to miss each other a little bit.

Clingy Signs

If you are a clingy person, I didn’t mean to beat up on you. Being clingy is usually a learned behavior and you may have been taught that by your parents. But the time has come to break out of that mold and become your own person.

A strong partner with their own life and interests makes for a great mate.

If you want to have a healthy, BALANCED relationship, then you must be a happy, well-adjusted individual. Now, I know we all have our little issues in life, but I mean generally speaking you should have your act together. Go out and get some new friends and hobbies. Start thinking and acting positively all the time.

Start loving life and everyone around you. All those clingy signs will automatically disappear when you do these simple things because you will be happier, more confident, and more independent. If you need more help getting it together, then go see a counselor. Many churches and workplaces will supply you with counseling services for free.

Here are some books from Amazon that you might find helpful:


For more information read How To Stop Being Clingy.

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The Worst Thing a Guy Can Do

The worst thing a guy can do is………can you fill in the blank, guys?
It has occurred to me that most guys do not realize when they are committing the worst cardinal sin of relationships. It is something so bad that some women rate it right up there with cheating. Yes, there is something that is AS bad. Some women can even forgive you for cheating easier than for this.
So what is this awful cardinal sin?

NOT LISTENING!!!

The worst thing a guy can do is not listen to his wife/girlfriend………period.

Nothing makes a female angrier than being ignored. We don’t like it when you don’t understand us, but when you just plain don’t listen….well, that means you are not even ATTEMPTING to understand us.

We understand that things in your brains do not work like things in our brains, and we are okay with that. If you were just like us, then we wouldn’t want you anyway.

However, when you do not listen to us the message you are sending to us is this: You are not important enough for me to waste my attention on. OUCH!!

Now, you probably did not consciously think that, and you didn’t mean to send that message at all. However, you need to understand that in the give and take of relationships, this is the part where you give. You give your time and attention to us because we are the most important thing in your lives. And sometimes you put yourself out and do things that inconvenience you for the people you love.

As for the guy’s side of things, I understand that some women can be overly demanding of your time and attention. Most women truly do not realize when they are doing this. If you are in one of those situations, then sit down and have an honest talk with your girl. Most women are amazingly reasonable when they have their guy’s undivided attention.

So here’s how you show her how much you really care:

Take 20 minutes out of each day and dedicate it to your girl. This can be when you first get home from work, right before bed, or any other time that’s convenient for you. But you need to make it the SAME TIME EVERY DAY. This is important because you need to make it a habit that you do everyday (like brushing your teeth). If you do not do it at the same time each day, then you will begin to skip days and the whole plan will go down the drain.

Now, what are you going to do with this 20 minutes? You are going to get something to drink and then sit down and spend quality time with your girl. Let her tell you about her day and actually LISTEN to her. Don’t think about what’s on television or what you will do when she’s finished. Then you can tell her about your day. Use this time to really connect. You will find yourself looking forward to this intimate time as much as her.

So many guys think of women as chattering on about nothing and think it’s okay just to tune them out. But think about this. She wants to tell you about her day because she wants you to be a part of her life. She shares with you because you are important to her. When she STOPS sharing with you, then you are NO LONGER important to her. THEN YOU ARE IN BIG, BIG TROUBLE!!!

When she’s not interested in sharing her ups and downs with you – buddy, she’s not interested in YOU!!!

You are also probably thinking that twenty minutes a day couldn’t possibly make that much of a difference. But take it from another girl who knows. If you sit her down and explain your plan to her, she will be ecstatic! You will get points just for wanting to do it. Then when you start using this time wisely- well, you will usually find that she saves her “chatter” for the twenty minutes that she knows she has your undivided attention. After all, her whole goal is for you to listen, so she is less likely to waste her energy until she knows you are listening.

Twenty minutes a day will make a bigger impact than you could ever imagine. Try it now and you will see what I mean. Remember, she wants to be treated like a princess. You want to be her hero. This accomplishes both things at once.

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The Magic Of Making Up: Bring Back the Love Of Your Life

The Magic of Making UpThe Magic Of Making Up

The “magic” component here is the love. You obviously still feel love for the person in questions here, so let’s see what we can do about helping you get them back.

When trying to get your ex back you might be tempted to make a few common mistakes. Humans by nature want to form attachments to others and be close to those whom we love. This is what secures the longevity of the human race and makes our world go around. However, these same innate urges can also work against us when our emotions completely take over our actions.

If you are reading this article, then you are obviously suffering from a break up with someone you love. This is the time that you need a clear head, but it is the most difficult time in your life to think straight. I understand because I have been there – we all have at one time or other.

What You Need Is An EXACT Plan To Get Your Partner Back

Why is this important? Because right now you are thinking with your heart, not your head. It is way too easy to make costly mistakes when you are thinking irrationally, and at this point you are desperate to get your ex back. You will do anything, right?

Having a plan in place takes all the thought out of it. Just follow the plan and watch your partner come back to you.Get The Magic Of Making Up 4

Sounds easy, huh? That’s because it is.

The Magic of Making Up Uses Human Nature To Work Miracles For You

The Magic of Making Up is an unconventional, comprehensive plan that uses the basic concepts of human nature to make your partner want you back. It works on the subconscious level to endear your partner to you once more, not matter how difficult your situation is at the moment.

Is this plan trickery or under handed? No. It simply brings out the best of your relationship while minimizing the negative aspects.

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How Much Is Your Relationship Worth?

At the time of this posting The Magic Of Making Up is available for just $39.00. This is obviously much cheaper than most couple’s counseling and you don’t have to talk your ex into it. (Quite often the ex simply refuses to attend couple’s counseling.)

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*How to get your head on straight. Use my Fast Forward Technique and get instant relief from emotional break-up pain and depression…You CAN feel better and within minutes! (Page 13)

*Do they still care? Discover the TELL TALE clues your ex leaves that says you still have a special place in their heart…and I don’t care what they say… This is all you need to look for PERIOD! (Page 21)

*Man had an affair? How to fight fire with fire. Inside this magic bag you will discover dirty tricks women use to steal a man. How to neutralize the power she has over him by understanding the ONE THING he craves more than sex, food or ball games. (Page 5)

*Do you know the core reason why men leave women? …it is not beauty, sex, or a younger fresher face… I am SHOCKED most women can’t answer this question. Men desire this ONE thing more than any other…give it to them and they will be yours FOREVER. (Page 5)

*What women crave the most… and if she doesn’t get it…it is only a matter of time before SHE WILL look for it somewhere else. You can get her back fast once you master this simple technique. (This is the #1 technique used by unscrupulous Don Juan’s use to steal married women.) (Page 6)

*Are they with someone else now? Why this is not nearly as catastrophic as it first appears…and how to use the fact that 90% of rebound relationships never work out to your advantage. (Page 18)

*Were you the one that had the affair? How to use the “clean slate” technique in conjunction with one other secret technique and come a looong way to forgiveness in the shortest amount of time. (Special Bonus Included)

*When to apologize and when you shouldn’t. In the right circumstance just one good apology will land you back in their arms…other times an apology will blow up in your face and hurt your future chances. (Special Bonus Included)

*The fastest and shortest path (bar none) back into their heart, mind and soul. This is so counter-intuitive it may never occur to you. (Page 33)

*Wish you could start over? Take away hurtful things you said? Turn back time? Using a combination of the Clean Slate Method and “breaking the pattern” you can. Quickly and easily.

*The Instant Reconnect Technique – I almost didn’t include this one because it may be too potent. It is “psychological judo” and will trick your ex lovers mind into thinking you are still together. This is SUBCONSCIOUS and there is no defense against it. (Page 43)

*Exactly what to say and what to do to get your ex back on a date. Follow my instructions and it will be easy as pie because it will seem so natural. This has worked hundreds if not thousands of times. (Page 38)

*The Bonding Secret so powerful that is partially responsible for the reason hostages sometimes bond with their kidnappers or oppressors (Stockholm Syndrome). This is relationship magic. It is undetectable, unnoticeable and 99.99% of the human population can not defend against it, let alone tell you how it is done. Like ANYTHING, this can be used for good or bad. Once you own The Magic Of Making Up you will possess the power to REBOND or BOND with anyone. Please use responsibly!

*Sex? When you should have sex during the reconciliation process. Both men and women get this completely wrong. Guys you will speed up the process immensely armed with this information. Ladies, most of you nearly destroy your chances because you sleep with him too soon. (Page 46-48)

*What foods toy with your emotions and what foods help put you in balance. Putting your relationship back together is hard enough, make sure you are eating foods that will help you. (Page 26-28)

*Decisions you should actually put off until you are back together. (Page 60)

*How to use the Fast Forward Technique to overcome hang ups you may have with dieting, exercise, self esteem and other challenges that stem from negative feelings. (Page 14)

*Recapture the romance you had when love your love was new. Impossible? Not once you learn the magic of Pattern Breaking and you stir in a dose of the techniques in Chapter 4.

*Ladies if you follow the advice in Chapter 6, he will NOT be able to get you out of his mind – (It’s just the way men are wired.)- He will start CALLING YOU again and you will be shocked at the complete transformation he makes!

*Afraid you will just start fighting again once your back together? How to diffuse arguments before they start. This is so simple and works so well you will swear it’s “magic”…and it only takes one person!

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